Do you have a strong feeling about certain names?
During my first full-time job in advertising, I encountered by far the worst person I’ve ever known and the very sound of her name still fills me with disdain. Thankfully I was able to find a better job and escape her, but since then I’ve chatted with many friends, hairdressers, and strangers on the subway about how people can ruin names for you.
Here are some of my favorite responses:
Do you take a supplement?
It seems like there’s a new magic pill company everyday telling me how I’m not getting enough of a letter (Vitamin A, B, C etc.) in my diet and how they can save me from myself. It’s nothing new in the landscape of self-care.
But with all the designer packets and gummies there’s one I’ve had a long history with: Vitamin D.
I feel like when bloggers talk about self-care I somehow get tricked into reading the same 5 page report about meditation, Korean face masks, and drinking more water.
Granted they’re not wrong, these things can help, but it feels like a kind of impersonal internet advice. Sometimes it’s nice to peek under a person’s online persona and see what actually makes them happy.
Here’s some random non-candle related things that always cheer me up: (more…)
So here’s a trade secret. As someone who has an addiction to monochromatic fashion and high-quality goods at dirt-cheap prices, I try to shop exclusively at thrift stores, flea markets, and vintage shops.
My wallet has thanked me repeatedly for the fact that thanks to a deep hatred I harbor for malls and my unwillingness to pay $25 for a graphic tee, most of my wardrobe comes from goodwill or local charity shops.
And I’m not going to expunge the benefits of thrifting like other bloggers because they’re obvious (cost-effective, treasure hunting, environmentally friendlier, great deals, blah blah blah).
Instead, I wanted to take a quick second and say that people need to have better attitudes about this kind of shopping experience. I’ve been going to repurpose stores since I was in middle school and I’ve witnessed the craziest kind of behavior from people of all ages and backgrounds. I’ve also worked retail so I know rude customer outliers come with the territory, but there are nuances to thrifting that newbies just ignore completely thinking they can behave the same way they do at strip malls.
Here are some things you should know about thrifting:
I find that the question of siblings is almost immediately brought up when meeting someone new.
What’s your name? What do you do? How many other times did you parents produce offspring?
And for me, it’s a pretty short answer.
There’s a great 2012 article from the New York Times by Alex Willaims that detailed the hardships older adults have in making and maintain new friendships. And for some reason, my little high school brain read this and freaked out at the idea making friends would get even harder. Honestly finding people I liked to be around was hard enough.
It’s such a cliche. Young twenty-something from the South leaves home to start their life in NYC away from everything they knew, blah blah blah. Ok, we get it.
The thing is though, this was all supposed to be someone else’s cliche. Definitely not mine.